Wedding Wednesday: Wording Etiquette

A while back I posted a Do’s & Don’ts which touched a little on etiquette, but the wording of your invitation suite is a whole other post. Planning a traditional, elegant affair? Chances are you will want to go with traditional wording to keep with the theme of your big day. On the other hand a modern, casual gathering has its own wording that fits a more contemporary theme. Thankfully not only are we your one-stop-shop for all things custom and design, but we are also masters at wording your invitations without offending your guests! Most of the couples who walk through our door have no idea where to start with how to word their invitations and inserts, so you’re not alone. Let me take you through the tips that we like to provide for our brides and grooms because, like it or not, there are rules that are out there thanks to time, tradition, Martha Stewart and Emily Post.

Some cultures have their own way of wording invitations, but if you fall under the North American category it is safe to assume that your traditional invitation will go something like this:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Lynn
Mr. Ryan Walker
Saturday, the fourteenth of December
two thousand thirteen
at two o’clock in the afternoon
St. Joseph’s Basilica
Edmonton, Alberta

Traditionally it was the bride’s family paying for the wedding, which meant they were doing the inviting. I get asked a lot, “What’s normal?” and well, the simple answer to that is - these days anything goes! Since more and more couples are paying for their own weddings, wording should follow suit right? This is where the modern take on invitations comes in:

Sarah Lynn Smith
Ryan Tyler Walker
invite you to share
the joy of their marriage
Saturday, December 14, 2013 at 2:00 pm
St. Joseph’s Basilica
10044 – 113 Street
Edmonton, Alberta

Some couples have a formal and elegant wedding but choose to go with modern wording, adding some tweaks of traditional flare ~ which is a-okay with us! At the end of it all, every aspect of your wedding should reflect both of you {I feel like this is something I say alot, but I truly mean it}. Consistency is key. If you have come in for a consultation and have sat down with Anne or myself, you may already know that it is common to include the reception information on the invitation card, and why not? This could very well fall into a whole other post for another day, but having the ceremony and reception on the same invitation saves having another piece of paper. We’re all for making the best impression for your fabulous big day with the start of it all ~ the invitation ~ but if we can save you a few dollars here and there, we will! We’re just that nice.

Where things start to get sticky is when you want to add anything speaking of money. Did any one say cash bar? What about that gift registry? Your guests should never assume, although if you are worried that your friends and family will show up unprepared, this type of information should always be passed along by word of mouth via your family or bridal party {discretely of course}. Better yet, if you have a website, throw it on there! Twenty years from now you won’t want to look at your invitation and see at the bottom, “toonie bar”. After you’ve read all of this and you’re still not sold, just as long as you don’t lose sight of the meaning and reason for this joyous occassion, your wedding day, we will print whatever it is you feel is right. Your wedding should be spent enjoying the day with the ones who love and care about you most, not what gift they will give you.

(image source via Smock Paper on Pinterst)

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